sorry

Title: sorry

I have thought through and shall now write about it. What does sorry mean to you? The first image appears to you is ....

For me, the moment when one says sorry, it defines the willingness to acknowledge own mistake as one will feel uncomfortable within for the things one did and owns up for the sake of lightening the psychological burden. It feels like a judge would say in a court, "You are guilty"and the plaintiff's fate is sealed for his evildoings. Also, the subsequent feeling can be as if one is brought down to his knees to ask for the other forgiveness. When the receiving party feels fully what has just been mentioned, the sincerity has been felt truly and the word 'sorry' has been exercised to its fullest potential. Then one would hope that his apology would be accepted. Greatness of the word 'sorry' is that it makes anyone who uses it a better person with sincerity because one will put in effort to avoid the pitfalls one has been through.

Sorry works, doesn't it? In an argument, once one says sorry, it marks the end of a war and peace treaty is signed when both agree that apologising is the way to end. But sometimes, due to human nature, thing is made complicated. After one apologised, the offended party might just harper on the incident which the guilty party for his wrongdoings when another fight is incurred. Thus, sorry seems to only work for a while. Human is just complicated. To bring up the past matter, the once-upon-a-time-agreed treaty was broken. It reminds the guilty party what was done. The word 'sorry' can't bury that unhappy past when the other party who belongs to a personality that likes to bring up the past.

Sorry has the power to make one vulnerable. It has made one weak and unfortunately or fortunately, increased the bargaining power of the receiving party. If it is unfortunate, then it has to be that the offended person is a nasty individual who likes to take advantage of others when they are weak. However, for some who have good character, he will not make use of the siuation to his own advantage but makes a good friend with the person who issues sorry. What's more, a true friendship might even be fostered or grown in strength.

To say sorry, one bears all responsibilities. So for whatever mistakes made in the incident, regardless of who did what, the person takes up the tag of i am guilty and shall be remembered for life that i have done this and this which caused so much happiness in who and who. A silly memory that will be with you for life if the matter is of great importance.

The empathy is felt. Instead, sorry brings one to the level where he and the hurt party share the burden. The barrier is still there sometimes. The person who feels the hurt does not believe it and may think that he is hypocritical. But somehow, with perseverance, the person may accept it.

Sorry is not hard for me to say. I can apologise right away if I am in the wrong. But the issue is that, I sometimes found that sorry cannot help me much when damages are done. Even though I may apologise, I cannot erase the mistake. However, the apology I issue is dependent on the offended one if he/she wants to accept it. So I can only regret when my apology is rejected.

The usage frequency of the word plays a great part too. If the word is used too often, one loses credibility. Sincerity in each sorry said has sadly eroded. For example, if you broke a promise to meet your friend at 8am, in school, you turned up only at 8.15am and you apologised. For the first try, sorry is readily accepted generally and your friend might even add in some comforting words, "I understand". But try to be late for the next few appointments, the image of you is further imprinted in your friend's mind. Try to say sorry again, it won't work wonders for you anymore, sorry.

To restrain the use, it would help alot. By saying so, it does not mean that if one is in the wrong, he should reduce using the word 'sorry'. Instead, it is meant that preventing any collision of interests will decrease the use of the word 'sorry'.

Sorry, if i have made you so sick of seeing this full-of-sorry post, haha.