I think i have learnt that the world i live in means an exchange of benefits in all aspects.
For a business to be viable, value adding is important. Perhaps the reason that some businesses survive while others do not, boils down to the fact - value-adding. If the products do add value to (or benefit) the consumers, the products can be sold and thus handsome profits can be raked in. For example, one buys a computer because he/she needs it for his/her projects anywhere (need) and laptop provides portability (benefit). The larger the value it adds, the greater the profits will be. In short, value-adding will create a simple consumer's demand for the product and ultimately customer satisfaction.
Well, in the area of relationship, value-adding does exist. When you are in need of help, probably you will turn to the people whom you can trust, e.g. friends, family. So when the trusted fellow that you seek help from provides really good help in one way or another, it does value-add to the situation you are in. In the long run, the relationship can be better maintained and improved by looking out for each other.
But a usual relationship starts because of value-adding, doesn't it? It applies to a boy courting a girl too. When a boy does skirt-chasing, he may spend alot financially, emotionally or even in terms of time. But the interaction with someone he does admire/like, he will still gather the very least - sweet moments that he has with the girl. For the girl, she gains in terms of self-confidence and is showered with perhaps gifts.
Although i do express such that relationships are like business transactions here, i strongly believe that relationship with closed ones (not necessarily the person must be living physically close to you, haha) is built upon beyond value-adding. Other major factors like trust, being sensitive towards others, do count in. One of the greatest products that my friends gave me is their presence. The presence that they gave is more than being there. Hanging around with them is sometimes costly because a meal can easily cost me at least $12, the company they give can be really expensive and priceless. Sincerity coupled with actions, is still the best mode of expressing one's appreciation for the others.
There are times i feel that one really needs to express verbally his/her appreciation for what the closed one has actually done for him/her. But i guess it is really hard in a way to say face-to-face that someone is great for me. I will keep it in my heart and through the non-verbal connection known as telepathy that i hope my closed companions will feel appreciated. Sad to say, it fails most of the time, i guess. Phrases like "i miss you" are hard to express. When they are said to person of similar gender especially in the case of a guy, it is simply raising goosebumps. For a guy to say it to a girl, it is misleading. Others might think you have fallen into the traps of love for that girl. The expression 'something is best left unsaid' is sometimes crappy a sentence. So i must learn to appreciate verbally.
After value-adding, the behavior exhibiting appreciation must be followed after.
I think i need to do value-adding more often to people around me whenever i can, via actions and also telling them they are appreciated.
Start value-adding and appreciating...
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